What you choose to value can provide resilience against challenges. Becoming a better person includes developing a more accurate understanding of what benefits the most. If you want to feel better, act so as to obtain and retain outcomes that are more valuable to you. When you identify, seek, and obtain greater outcomes, you have a more abundant stockpile from which to draw in times of need.
Beware the temptation to measure life’s abundance solely in the things you possess. These are the least valuable and least resilient of all possible outcomes. Who you become and what you’ve sacrificed for others are much stronger and long-lasting bulwarks against the challenges of life.
Your values can reduce the strain of seemingly negative outcomes when put into the context of what is more important. For example, when something turns out worse than you expected, you can consider how unimportant it is in the scope of all things that matter more.
Values provide you with a source of measurable gratitude for what you have but would otherwise underappreciate. The richest man is he who knows the true value of the simple things most take for granted.